I picked up a book this morning I had read last year. "Plan B" by Anne Lamott. I certainly enjoyed "Traveling Mercies" better, but this one has some really good stuff in it also. The chapter titled Adolescence, had this conclusion, "My friend Mark, who works with church youth groups reminded me recently that Sam doesn't need me to correct his feelings. He needs me to listen, to be clear and fair and parental. But most of all he needs me to be alive in a way that makes him feel he will be able to bear adulthood, because he is terrified of death, and that includes growing up to be one of the stressed-out, grey-faced adults he sees rushing around him."
I think that is very good advice.