Sunday, March 23, 2008

AHHHHH...SHE'S BACK HOME


My senior went on a cruise this past week through Central America with three friends and the parents of one of the girls. Believe it or not Dad did not have one moment of fear or worry about her being gone. I think I have let go and believe it or not, as good as this relationship has always been, it has never felt more healthy.

But goodness gracious I missed my daughter/friend. It's good to have her home and I am so glad she was able to have this exerience.

12 comments:

Jennifer said...

I'm listening and watching Kent. I would have been worried. It's good to have your example!

Kent said...

Up to three years ago Jennifer I had lived my life trying to control the uncontrolable. And then that illusion began to come undone which then led to me coming undone due to the fear of some thing happening to my daughters. I didn't just wake up one day and change my mind about what I was going to dwell on either. What happened was that I began to face the fact that all my attempts to control environments and my girls had never removed the potential for harmful things happening to them.

It's another wild paradox. Most would think that the realization of these realities would just create more fear and attempts to control and apparently for most that is what happens. For me, the opposite happened and I have nothing to attribute it to except Father, Son and Spirit and the life in them we have been invited into (and also our children). Once I began to see that it is the life hidden in them and them in me and all of that being made possible through the cross and resurrection I began to understand the power of God and how it is the very event that has the ability to deliver us from all our fears.

Some people call that naive (even most Christians) but I respond to them by saying, If this isn't true than none of it makes any sense at all and it's just a sick joke and we would all be well adviced to battan down the hatches because we all are on our own in a world of violence and uncertainty.

But I know differently...we are not on our own.

Aida said...

Wow, Kent! What a testimony of Father's power to set us free.

It's true! We really are not on our own. If we'll just believe that, fear can't control us. Thanks for sharing more of your story.

BTW, which one of those beauties is yours?

Aida

Aida said...

Kent, this is totally off topic but I tried to find that video you made using scenes from The Passion. I was going to post it on my blog but couldn't find it. Can you post it on yours or send me the link so I can post it on mine?

You did a really good job and I think the blogging community would be encouraged by it. Also, I'd love to see it again.

Aida

Kent said...

the third one counting from the left.

And Aida, I must say that the story in The Shack played a major role in me facing the reality of my inability to remove the uncertainty in their lives created by this troubled world we all live.

Facing our fears honestly can open many doors into finding freedom from those fears.

Kent said...

Aida, I think you have mistaken me for having made that video when it was ArnieB that made it. If I am remembering the one you are referring to? I have never made one myself.

Kent said...

Aida, is this what you were looking for?

http://thegodjourney.com/forums/index.php?topic=916.msg11999#msg11999

Aida said...

She is a beauty. I'm glad she's back and that Dad experienced such peace.

I remember you sharing how much The Shack helped you through that difficult time. Facing our fears, the very thing we don't want to do, is the only thing that will bring us freedom.

You know about the difficulty I had when I read The Shack. For the most part, I really couldn't figure out what Paul was trying to say. All that symbolism really got in the way as far as I was concerned but periodically someone would say something about the book and I would think, "Oh! That's what Paul was trying to say."

Anyway, you just said something that helped me to understand what Paul was saying. I really didn't understand that the story was about Mack facing his fears. Now, I know you probably think I'm pretty dense but that's the way it's been for me regarding that book.

BTW, they did a book discussion on it at the Presbyterian "Church" I go to on Sundays. The pastor and a visiting evangelist led the discussion. I didn't go to it but the pastor said it went well.

Well, no wonder I couldn't find the video using your name.

Your post with the link just came through. Thanks for sending it.

Aida

Kent said...

Aida, have you taken the time to watch the video interview with Paul that is linked in the comments to the TO REMAIN STUCK OR TO BREAK FREE post from a couple days ago? He speaks straight forward in his interviews so no metaphors.

Aida said...

Kent, I haven't seen that video but I'll try to watch it later today as well as check out the link Sue posted in her comments.

I've seen the pre-Shack interviews that he did on TGJ and really enjoyed them. I hope no one thinks I'm anti-Shack or Paul Young because that not true. I've been encouraged by his interviews and his writings when he speaks plainly without all the metaphors. I'm really not part of the doctrine police. LOL

BTW, I've also experienced some more freedom with my children but in a different way. I've been dealing with something regarding my children for a while. Charlie and I have stressed about it but finally I said I wasn't worrying about it any more. If they wanted to straighten out the problem they could but, if they didn't, that was the way it was going to stay.

Well, in my son's last two visits home, I've seen some wonderful changes and Father used some game called a WII to do it. He really does some amazing things when we give up that illusion of control. It's a hard lesson to learn and I'm sure I'll have to do it again in another situation but now he's won me to a greater level of trust so maybe it won't be so hard next time.

Aida

Kent said...

Aida, you've never come off as harsh in any of the responses I have seen. I really do understand that is not going to connect with everybody. Being someone that is so moved by music, believe me I've had some people close to me trash artists I love. There was a time when that insensitivity from others would hurt me, it just doesn't anymore. There is music and books I don't enjoy that have touched others deeply also. In those cases I look past what it is Father is using in someones life to just enjoy what it is He is doing inside them.

That's cool about the changes you are seeing in some of your relationships. Isn't it just sad how attempting to control others has become such a normal thing in our society, when all along it has been destroying relationships? I don't care who it is, when control and manipulation is present relationships are not going to be healthy.

Aida said...

I'm glad I'm not coming across as harsh. There's been a lot of emotionalism about the book which in my opinion is silly. People either like or they don't. If they think God is being falsely portrayed, well . . . he's quite capable of defending himself.

I watched the video you suggested and really enjoyed it. I think Paul's got some great things to say. Thanks for telling me about it.

Aida