Aida got me to thinking this morning about our propensity to be caught up in the cycle of exercising control over others and most of the time I think people live unaware of that being what they are actually doing. Or even worse, and this unfortunately is the case for many...believing this is actually helpful to people. This picture popped up in a story on the web this morning and seemed to fit so well. This is a boss using controlling behavior with an employee. I understand why this is the norm in our society in the business world, but it also is a great example of how this way of attempting to move people to do what we want them to do might be beneficial to keep a system running but is not helpful in building healthy, loving relationships.
I don't have much hope in the business world or any of the systems we are surrounded by changing their methods. Conformity through the use of fear, shame and guilt seems to be the accepted norm. But I have great hope for individuals who are being set free through reconciled relationships with Father, being freed from fear and all the ways fear has twisted us. Now these people I can see living free of the dysfunction caused by sin, shame, guilt and fear, and learning to love, serve and sacrifice for others instead of attempting to control and manipulate them to get what we want and what we have determined is "good" for them.