In a conversation today with a new client (Psychology Professor and Conflict Resolution Consultant) I asked him what seemed to be the #1 issue that creates the conflicts with the groups and individuals he deals with? He said, "People assuming things about others and becoming stuck in those assumptions." Our conversation was so fascinating and it covered many of the things that have been in the process of deconstruction in my life and several of my friends over the past few years.
I bring up the problematic act of assuming things about people and situations and forming opinions based upon those assumptions because this seems to be part and parcel with how most people live their lives. Unless we are set free from this, we will continue projecting things on people and situations that aren't based upon anything real and will continue participating in the cycle of destructive behavior that keeps healthy relationships from happening.