I hope I am wrong in what I am about to say but I really wonder.
This combination of a "culture stripped of grace" and a culture so trapped in perfomance that demands that we as individuals, and then in regards to our families, that they be nothing short of "braggable," creates I think a rather destructive cocktail.
I think the dysfunction and abuse goes much deeper than is even seen on the surface. But when punishment and judgement is all that awaits those who bring these damaging behaviors to the light...they more often than not just remain in the dark and the "braggable" facade is what is presented...and the pain and hurt continues.
Father we need some help out of this mess.
Say a prayer for Rebecca today....and tomorrow.