Thinking back over the past year along with what seems to be an everyday occurrence, this thing of perception, how we see things as being, is in my humble opinion one of the most important things we will all have to face and process out if freedom is to ever become a reality in our lives so in turn we become agents of change instead of remaining agents of pain.
Our lives are made up of choices...responses to what's happening around us or what we desire to happen. Most of what I see coming from people and the way I had lived most of my life, "reacting" turns out to be a better way to describe what makes up most of a persons life than does "responding".
The ability to respond comes from a place of peace...rest. Emotions play as much a part in the lives of people learning to rest as they do in those who are still scrambling trying to control it all. But they look and feel drastically different. And they produce something drastically different also.
It's impossible for me to name one thing I am most grateful for this past year/years. But learning to respond from a place of rest, due in part to learning to accept things for what they are instead of attempting to make things what I might think they should be, would make a good run for the top spot on my list. All of this becomes far more obvious to me in light of being the father of three teenage daughters. Teenage emotional responses to what is perceived as reality rarely matches up to what is actually happening or has happened already. It's no help at all when parents emotional responses run along the same rails of unreality. Believe me when I say, that is a train wreck I never want to repeat.
It seems to me that most things...most difficulties we humans face stem from an inherent need to be in control. And much of that spreads out from a place inside us and manifests itself as attempts to make things be something they are not. It's a refusal to accept reality. The subsequent emotional responses end up causing us to violate everyone and even ourselves. And have you noticed yet how ineffective that approach is? We really can't make something out of nothing...well, except stronger illusions and bigger messes.