Monday, August 02, 2010

PAUPERS IN THE ART OF FRIENDSHIP

"It's like the fierceness of a good friend who is able to confront you and help you see your blind spots when you can't trust your own vision. And then the shelter of it that exists. And I think the tragedy of the consumerist culture is that we have clocked up all these acquaintances with our Palm Pilots and other stuff now...that people have so many contacts and details about each other but we have become post graduates in the art of acquaintance and paupers in the art of friendship.

There's a natural hunger in the spirit, in every one's spirit to be seen. To be understood as you are. And to be received in the space of friendship and love, which is like I always think of friendship and love....ideally as safe spaces where you can be as you are without being judged or without being battered by the force of expectations to be a certain way. And I think that we offer each other these spaces less and less puts us into more pressure zones. And then we choose other things to fill the emptiness because of what we don't have. If we realize how vital to our whole spirit and being and character and mind and health, friendship actually is, we will take time for it. What's so sad though is that for most of us we have to be in trouble before we remember what's essential. And sometimes one of the lonelinesses of humans is that you hold on desperately to things that make you miserable, and that sometimes you only realize what you have when you're almost about to lose it.

So I think it would be great to step back from one's life and see around one...who are those that hold me dear, that truly see me and those that I need, and to be able to go to them in different ways. The amazing thing about humans is, regardless of the morass of falsity that surrounds them, if they can be approached in a way where the true word of address to the soul is sounded, they are helpless but to react back with authenticity and integrity. And I think we have immense capacity to reawaken in each other the profound ability to be with each other and to be intimate. That's one of the things I've always thought about America...that there is a loneliness here that is covered over by this fake language of intimacy that you meet everywhere."

That once again is some of the conversation that took place between John O'Donohue and Krista Tippet on the podcast SPEAKING OF FAITH.

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2 comments:

Rick Gibson said...

That's a great quote. Skye Jethani makes a similar statement in 'The Divine Commodity', saying that placing our identity in the owning of certain material possessions causes us to loose the ability to connect deeply with others.

Todd said...

holy moly andy!
that was lovely...and very challenging...