The culture in which we live knows not what grace is and has become severe and harsh, and that is largely due to fear and it being uncomfortable with mystery, so instead, sets us out on a course to find certitude...or as John O'Donohue says it; "it wants to unriddle and control the unknown."
Religion is equally a troubling partner in this adventure in missing the point. It sets people up to head out on a path (usually a program) to learn how to be what they must be in order to be in God's good graces...'safe inside his will'...and the malforming effects of it all leaves people completely incapable of spontaneity, something that is vital when it comes to following the Spirit and simply being.
Religion and culture are all about achievement so they never allow the necessary space for us to find what we are in need of doing....letting go. Forcing oneself to go at it harder is the loudest prevailing ridiculous voice we all face and as long as we follow that voice we will never come to find what it means to simply belong...to be. The ego hates this and will never accept it. The ego is actually what is receiving the eviction notion when we make the decision to let go.
Only when we take the risk in stepping out of it all will we come to rest and find out that what we have been chasing all along wasn't what we were in need of. And what we were in need of has been right here with us all along...just waiting for us to return home.