Monday, January 17, 2011


I just got off the phone with a dear friend. It was good to talk with someone who understands. It's a rare find. It really is.

We are all broken and so we share that in common. I'm coming to understand a bit better though why people choose to live in the illusion. It's a place where people can at least try to hang onto the mistaken notion that there is something out there to be found...the perfect combination of things...that will finally cause the pain and struggle to go away. To enter into the reality of what is, means we must put aside such a search. Most can't fathom embracing such a thing, so they don't. And as a result miss out on the beauty of the flaw. And instead spend the time hanging onto the very things that make them miserable and miss out on what they have...a circle of belonging to enter into that is nothing but confounding. Full of pain? Yes. But also full of joy and peace and rest and contentment.

Part of the pain is the compassion that comes flooding in once we give up the game of trying to be something we are not so we can face up to who we are, and in turn, find ourselves being encouraged by the presence of the Beautiful, who desires to set us free, to take our hands off the throats of those around us we have been blaming for our troubles or at least looking to control and manipulate in an attempt to get the world to revolve around us. A wonderful thing happens when we respond to the advice to let go of throats and our own personal expectations. We begin to be able to see the beauty hidden inside the flaw of others also. There is no way of our eyes being opened to this new way of seeing and us entering into this new way of being and it not carrying with it a measure of pain. There's no way of seeing others struggle and not feel the pain of it. But at least it's real and it's where the Beautiful dwells and invites us to join in there.

This from John O'Donohue fits well here.....

"It is a wonderful day in a life when one is finally able to stand before the long deep mirror of one's own reflection and view oneself with appreciation, acceptance and forgiveness. On that day one breaks through the falsity of images and expectation which have blinded one to one's spirit. One can only learn to see who one is when one learns to view oneself with the most intimate and forgiving compassion. Such a glimpse of one's essence can utterly rejuvenate a life and enable one to find the hidden wisdom in the beauty of the flaw."

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