I find the description below to be one of the clearest observations in regards to what happens to us. And when the everyday challenges of this life are left to be defined by and understood through the prism of fear and false belonging, the staggering lack of real presence is understandable.
"In some unnoticed way we have managed to inflict severe surgery on ourselves. We have separated soul from experience, become utterly taken up with the outside world and allowed the interior life to shrink. Like a stream that disappears underground, there remains on the surface only the slightest trickle. When we devote no time to the inner life, we lose the habit of soul. We become accustomed to keeping things at surface level. The deeper questions about who we are and what we are here for visit us less and less. If we allow time for the soul, we will come to sense its dark and luminous depth. If we fail to acquaint ourselves with soul, we will remain strangers in our own lives."
~ John O'Donohue